We all have those days when we just want to crawl up in bed, have a cry and shut the world off. Since I've been having a few more of those days than normal recently, I've put together a list of my go-to inner sad girl things to do when I'm feeling down. Normally I switch off social media when I'm doing any or all of these. It just makes you get back in touch with self more instead of seeing anything or feeling extra emotion to what you feel in that moment. Here's my personal cure and release from anger, jealousy, sadness that remind me that everything's going to be a-okay in times of distress:
I said this in my last post - Journalling. Writing things down that you are grateful for can be incredibly helpful. I normally think of friends & family, or all the positive aspects of my life, for example having a roof over my head, or the opportunity to follow my career of choice in the arts. Or on the other side of the spectrum, a deep and meaningful letter of release to someone of a situation gets things off your chest. Mid-way through mine I'm probably raging with anger or tears are smudging the ink, but by the end I take a deep breathe and I feel AMAZING. Then there two options: Burn it or send it. The latter will probably get you into trouble. But hey, you gotta love some risk taking on the heart hotline.
Listening to music: My playlist is called Heartbreak Hotel. For obvious reasons. Anything Jimi Charles Moody, Angus & Julia Stone, Cigarettes After Sex or Palace will release a flood and are my go-to's.
I put the kettle on, boil some hot water and make myself a peach tea. Because it makes you feel all warm inside! Instead of the deep, dark, cold, lonely, eutrophicate pond of tears you're wallowing in....
Light some candles! Scented ones! Vanilla! Coconut! Pretend you're on a tropical beach in Fiji! Anywhere but sitting amongst dirty tissues, mascara stained pillows and chocolate wrappers leftover from Easter!
Reading. My favorites at the moment I'm reading Sweet Bitter by Stephanie Danler, & I Dreamed I Was A Very Clean Tramp by Richard Hell. ALSO my beautiful friend Isabella Mente poured her heart & soul into her own book, 7,300 days which is so raw with emotion of her 20 years of being a woman. Ugh my friends rock.
Make art!!! The best medicine of all is to fuel your creative juices and pour your heart into your art. My favorite quote of all time : 'No great art has ever been made at a time of peace.'
Exercise: I take boxing classes at a place called Rumble. I go about 3 or 4 times a week. And punching that bag when I'm upset is my kind of therapy. Exercise will release all those happy endorphins and you will feel better, guaranteed, it's science goddamnit!
Redecorating & Reorganizing: Feng-shui. Moving your furniture around will bring a new energy to your room. Will also distract you, and maybe you'll find your ex's birthday letters he sent you and you can bin 'em or maybe some happy polaroids of a night you drank a little too much. You never know what you can find underneath your bed. Ancient treasures I tell you.
Sleep! Cause when you're sleeping there's no lonely times. Don't go to bed mad, you'll wake up mad, and people won't want to feel your wrath.
And there you have it, the ultimate sad girl guide. You'll find what works for you, but all of this makes me feel so warm and fuzzy inside and I wake up feeling cleansed & revitalized ready to take on the next day, hopefully with a smile on my face.
PSA: ...boys and cheats and liars they're such a big disgrace.....you know the drill.
Don't waste your tears over those who don't care about you and break your heart in two.
lots of love,